There has been SO much talk going around forums and groups on social media talking about how women are being bashed and losing their jobs for doing a boudoir session. While I'm not going to touch on the subject of losing their jobs for sharing their images, I am going to talk about the seriousness of bashing women for doing boudoir!
Are any of the following situations you, a friend or a significant other??
- Is your BEST FRIEND judging you for wanting to do a shoot for YOU??
- If your FAMILY putting you down for having "THOSE" kind of photos taken??
The worst one of all....
- Is your SIGNIFICANT OTHER putting you down and calling you names because you did something for YOU and spent money on it?
This is truly hateful to me!
WHY, WHY, WHY would you bash a woman for wanting to feel sexy and confident! There is NOTHING wrong with a woman wanting to feel confident! There is NOTHING wrong with a woman wanting to feel sexy. There is NOTHING wrong with a woman in any stage of her life doing something for her.
To the "BEST FRIEND": You are NOT a best friend. You don't have to LOVE boudoir but you are not a friend for bashing her for doing something for her. Just because you don't understand it, doesn't make it wrong. I promise you, there A LOT of things that you do that she doesn't understand BUT she supports you. Bashing her and putting her down is EXACTLY the reason she NEEDS this! She wants to feel better about herself and walk with a confidence that you clearly can't help with. She isn't asking you to go with her, she isn't even asking you to look at the photos.... she is asking you to be a friend and understand that she has found what she needs. What you don't understand is that these photos are NOT about being half naked or naked at all. They are about feeling like she is ENOUGH. Feeling like she is WORTH IT. Walking around with her head held high for the first time in maybe her whole life. It's about HER and she doesn't need anyone else to do this for. Be an actual friend and raise her up instead of bashing her.
To the FAMILY: You are always the first the ones to judge someone in the family and the first one to get defensive when they point out something about you. It's not your life, it's HER life. She doesn't have to share the images with anyone at all, if she chooses to, that's HER choice. "THESE" photos are classy and make her feel good about herself, something that you probably haven't helped with. What you don't understand is that these photos are NOT about being half naked or naked at all. They are about feeling like she is ENOUGH. Feeling like she is WORTH IT. Walking around with her head held high for the first time in maybe her whole life. It's about HER and she doesn't need anyone else to do this for. This has nothing to do with you, just keep your opinions to your self.
To the SIGNIFICANT OTHER: WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU?????? Your lady is doing something that is going to benefit you in SO many ways and all you can do is call her a slut or worse because she had boudoir photos done.... UM.... WHAT THE F*CK?? While they always come in saying that it is for their significant other, it always turns out to be for them! They need a confidence boost and based on your reaction, I see why! What is wrong with her being happy, confident and feeling sexy?? NOTHING, is the answer, FYI! She didn't do this to get another guy, she didn't do this to get attention from other people, she didn't do this to get half naked.... She did this because she wanted to feel better about herself and have confidence. What you don't understand is that these photos are NOT about being half naked or naked at all. They are about feeling like she is ENOUGH. Feeling like she is WORTH IT. Walking around with her head held high for the first time in maybe her whole life. It's about HER and she doesn't need anyone else to do this for. Be the significant other that she needs and support her. She does SO much, she deserves to feel confident and sexy. Trust me, it's going to benefit you in many ways.... just let her be happy and shit, ENJOY THE PHOTOS!! THEY ARE HOT!!
You will see a common trend here..... It's not understanding!
"What you don't understand is that these photos are NOT about being half naked or naked at all. They are about feeling like she is ENOUGH. Feeling like she is WORTH IT. Walking around with her head held high for the first time in maybe her whole life. It's about HER and she doesn't need anyone else to do this for."
Obviously this is not going to be every situation but this is what I keep hearing from women and other photographers. It's sickening to me that people could act like this. This is part of the reason why women are ashamed of being confident and sexy.
Let's support each other and lift each other up. Let's understand that there are views outside of our own and that's ok if no one is getting hurt.
LET HER BE A STRONG CONFIDENT WOMAN!!